Velofel it can often have a negative impact on your ability to perform. "If you’re worried about performing with your partner, talk to her about it – she may be really relieved, as she may believe you were avoiding sex because you’d gone off her. "Set the tone with a romantic date, away from distractions and stresses, and take things slowly. "If this doesn’t work, you may find it helpful to ban sex for a few weeks but still cuddle and be close – this takes the pressure off the need to get an erection, which may mean you’re more likely to achieve one. "If it’s having a significant impact on your life, speak to your GP – sometimes counselling can help." 8. Low libido There are lots of reasons for low libido in both men and women. Sometimes they’re hormonal – men may have low levels of testosterone, and low libido is common after the menopause in women. "Relationship problems are a common cause – you may not feel like sex with your partner but fancy other people." says Dr Jarvis. "If you’re a man, continuing to get early morning erections can be a sign that there’s a psychological cause. "Or it can be a symptom of depression.