Watch more Why Gwyneth Paltrow walked across the Emmys stage so slowly “It’s not like there’s a finish line: ‘Oh, we consciously uncoupled; we’re done’,” she said before going on to explain that the two remain close for the sake of their children, Moses, 13, and Apple, 15. “It’s a lifelong commitment to constantly reinvent your relationship with your ex, which you do presumably because you have children together,” Paltrow continued. “But I think we put all the hard work in at the beginning. I would say very rarely is it difficult now.” Paltrow added that she “adores” Martin’s girlfriend, actor Dakota Johnson. “I can see how it would seem weird because it’s sort of unconventional,” she added. “But I think, in this case, just having passed through it iteratively, I just adore her.” “I always start to think of the ampersand sign—what else can you bring in, instead of being resistant to or being made insecure by?