Orenstein interviewed who frequently faked “whiskey d–k” to avoid hookups, or Mitchell in Los Angeles, who avoided sex with his high-school girlfriend for years because he was terrified that his sexual ability “would just be … sufficient.” While girls struggle to find the magic middle ground between “prude” and “slut,” boys are “pushed to be as sexually active as possible,” Orenstein writes, “to knock out their firsts regardless of the circumstances or how they felt about their partners.” Enlarge ImageDavid Duchovny in "Californication" plays a womanizing novelist in Los Angeles. David Duchovny in “Californication” plays a novelist in Los Angeles whose ability to woo any woman is described by one young male subject to author Peggy Orenstein as “convincing.